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MCLE - Collaborative Divorce: Good People On Their Worst Behavior

05/07/2018 4:00 AM | Denise Bashline (Administrator)

Alameda County Bar Association


 Collaborative Divorce



Collaborative Divorce: Good People On Their Worst Behavior

Understanding the brain science behind conflict, and how it impacts behavior and decision making, can assist the divorce professional to mitigate stress and improve client outcomes – emotional as well as financial. In this presentation we will first briefly explore the anatomy and physiology of the brain functions that control how humans react when feeling threatened. Family law attorneys know these reactions well – confusion, anger, aggression, panic, defensiveness, hostility, paralysis, frustration, fear, and the inability to weigh choices and make rational decisions.

In many divorces, even if a client “wins” there is ongoing collateral emotional damage to both parties and the children. Attorneys are also impacted by the stress on their clients and the conflict with opposing counsel. We will consider specific techniques and practices to mitigate those impacts, create the conditions for the participants to have respectful discussions, engage in problem solving, compromise, develop creative solutions and look to the future. These techniques serve as the foundation for Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, and Integrative Mediation, however many are also now being utilized in traditional litigation.

Three specially trained professionals, a psychologist, a divorce financial advisor, and an attorney will address:

  • The brain science triggered by emotions operating during a divorce
  • Basic techniques to mitigate the impact of conflict and threat
  • Strategic use of non-attorney divorce professionals – who, when, why
  • Tools and techniques to assist clients manage the negative emotions brought on by intense family conflict
  • How divorce professionals can avoid contributing to the conflict and manage their own stress
  • How to help clients focus on the future and leave the process with optimism


Light lunch provided. If you have dietary restrictions, please plan to bring your own food.



FREE for ACBA Members


$115 for Non Members


Please note: there will be a $10 administrative fee if you cannot make the program, and do not cancel 24 hours in advance. A $10 fee will also be assessed for day-of and walk-in registrations.


If you have trouble registering, please contact the Membership Coordinator at



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Collaborative Divorce: Good People On Their Worst Behavior

Event Information



Alameda County Bar Association



Emily De Falla


Chandler Hoffman




Beth McClelland




Alameda County Bar Association - New Office
1000 Broadway, Suite 290
Oakland, CA  94607










12:00 PM - 01:30 PM

San Francisco Paralegal Association • 1 Sansome St., Ste. 3500 • San Francisco, CA 94104-4448 • (415) 946-8935 •